Welcome!

Hi!

Thanks so much for stopping by Wild Red Explores!

Wild Red is all about finding yourself by trying new things, breaking out of your comfort zone, and conquering your fears. In whatever way that means for you!

This could be something like thru-hiking the Pacific Crest Trail solo, cliff diving, swimming with sharks.  AND it could be flying for the first time, trying a food from a different country, going to a party where you don’t know anyone.

Breaking out of your comfort zone, living a wild life, is different for all of us. That’s what Wild Red is all about. I hope you stick around to see where this all goes, and become a part of a wild and fun community.

Stay wild and always be kind.

Jump Out of A Plane

Hi my brave ones,

I cannot believe it has taken me so long to fully write about this experience. What the heck was I thinking even?!
Let me tell you about the GREATEST THING I HAVE EVER DONE!

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Unapologetically Me

Hello beautiful soul! 

We are all so many things.  For most of my adult life, I have been on the journey of self-discovery.  Along with that came a lot of knowledge, a lot of opinions, a lot of help and suggestions.  Here is what I am learning, only I really know who I am and who I want to be.  And (this is the big one) only I can allow myself to be that!  If I do not accept myself the way I am (with room for improvements of course), how do I expect anyone else to do so?

I am learning to be unapologetically me.

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Me: (part of me… I am many things. Stick around to get to know me more.)

I don’t care that I’m sometimes impulsive and sometimes indecisive. I like being all and nothing sometimes. I’m not a fan of the middle too often.

I don’t want to have kids.

I like that I spend a lot of money on friends. Or spend more on clothes or stationery than other people- I like my quality and cute items. I’ll spend more for it.

I will not stop eating donuts and ice cream.

I’ll curse too much. Smile a lot. Laugh at dumb shit.

I’m quite when I have nothing to say, or when I’m too far in my own head. I’ll talk a lot when I’m excited. Sometimes I get loud.

I get sad and anxious often. It hits me like bricks. Or covers me like a death cloud. It takes over my whole body. Sinks into my soul.

I’m constantly finding a new part of me. I like trying new things. I like to do the things that scare me – or you.

I am more afraid of rejection, looking like a fool, of failing than of rock climbing, walking across a bridge at the tree tops, or jumping out of a plane.

I worry about how I look way too much. I care way too much. I don’t hold others to the same standard.

When I like myself, I really like myself. When I don’t, it’s almost unbearable.

I eat like a child most of the time, but I’ll try any food.

I like cute things. Small things. Colorful things. I like things.

But I don’t like to have too much “stuff” that just sits around pointlessly. I already have much to much of it.

I appreciate people’s advice, but sometimes I just need to hear, “it’s okay how you’re feeling, go ahead and feel that way.”

I say “I’m sorry” a lot because, get this… I am fucking sorry!

I feel a lot. I feel when you’re sad or anxious or happy or energized. I both love and hate this.

I like to dress up.

I like themes.

I love to dance. I cannot dance well, but I love to dance.

I like parties.

I like going to the city.

I’m not typically good at staying in.

My family are my friends and my friends are my family. I do not hold one above the other.

I like people very easily, but trust comes slow.

I am very open, but I hold a lot in too.

I AM all and I AM nothing, and I am okay with it.

I think the world is a wonderful, beautiful place full of joy and compassion and love.

I hope I never stop believing that.

 

Your turn!  Will you be unapologetically you? What does that look like to you? Let me know in the comments below.

As always,

Stay Wild my dears! 

A Note on Suicide

Hello, my darling!

There has been a lot of discussion about suicide lately due to the events of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain. Maybe you’re tired of seeing all the things about it and don’t need my part of it. That’s okay – you can stop reading now.

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Phrase of My Year

What’s up, sugar-snap!

Maybe you’re supposed to choose your word or phrase of the year before the year starts, or at the least in January. Some say to plan your year, or decide on  your goals early on. There’s a bunch of awesome advice on the change of the year and how to make the most out of the new year.

But here at Wild Red, we don’t do things just because we’re supposed to do them that way.  We do them because they feel right to us, they’re good for us, others, and the world, or just because they’re fun. Yeah, sometimes we do things because we’re supposed to that may not really excite us – like eating vegetables and paying bills – but we know they’re right for us and they’re good. (or maybe we don’t but then deal with the consequences)

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How to Have an Adventure Daily

Hey there, explorer!

There are those people who have these incredible jobs that take them all over the world, doing what they love, climbing, hiking, photographing, looking at birds, flying planes, out on the ocean researching marine-life, whatever else, so much else. It’s amazing!!

Most of us, however, do not. We work at a desk, or at home. Some might have the option of working anywhere in the world, but for some different reason are pretty much in one place all the time.  Not that we have bad jobs (some might). I, personally, like my job a lot.  And I’m not that staying in one place is bad. Many like or prefer that.

I am not one of those people.

I am a creature of habit. I typically order the same thing when I go to specific restaurants. I have the same morning and nighttime routine. I fall into habits easily. I think most of us are creatures of habit to some extent.

Although, I am one for habits, the same daily/weekly routine makes me CRAZY! I get so bored. I feel like I need constant entertainment and/or stimulus. I reach for ways to get it. Most times, I’ll reach for a snack. When I can, I just go to sleep. Not really the best options…

I really don’t handle boredom well.

There is more behind why I don’t handle boredom well and my need to escape it, but that’s not for this post.  (and maybe it’s just that I’m a damn millennial)

Since realizing this and being so aware of it when it happens, I’ve started to look for other ways to find excitement.

I can’t am not going to turn my life upside down in a day and be in a different place every day. I like my life how it is. I just needed to see it differently. I wanted to find the adventure in every day.

Here’s what I’ve tried so far:

  • Wake up earlier.  Okay – this is not always easy, but when I do it, I love it. Try it. There’s something magical about being up early when the rest of the world is quiet.
  • Try a new coffee or tea. Lately I’ve been drinking only white and herbal teas (trying to cut down that caffeine). I found some really amazing teas. Right now my favorite is Mighty Leaf’s Camomile Citrus. It turns my water a pinkish color and tastes beautiful. It’s a most lovely experience.
  • Read a book, magazine, or newspaper that’s outside of your typical genre. You might be surprised what incredible and interesting things you’ll find.
  • Take a different route to work or home. I don’t do this often, but every now and then I have to take a different route for some reason, and it’s nice to see different things on the way.  And who knows, maybe you’ll find a better way.
  • Ask a friend a random question. This is one of my favorites. I love learning about people and some questions can lead to really interesting conversations.
  • Read an online article (or blog post, anyone :wink:.). There is so much to learn and so many easy and fast ways to get to new information.
  • Go for a walk and look for 3 new things. This one started when I was walking my dog, and trying to walk “mindfully”.  I noticed she is always mindful, always looking at what’s around. I thought “walk more like the dog”.
  • Plan a treat. My co-workers and I made a plan to order something good for lunch twice a month (on pay day).  It’s something fun we all look forward to. You could do something daily, like have one piece of chocolate or almonds other small snack at 3pm, or something similar. My favorite right now is an apple with some almond butter.
  • Try a new food. This one took me a long time (most of my life) to do, but it is one of the greatest things I have ever done.  It has opened me up to so many amazing flavors and experiences.

There are such diverse ways you can find excitement in your daily life. You don’t need to jump off cliffs everyday to have an adventure (although rock on if that’s what you do!). All things are incredible in there own way if only we take the time to look.

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If you seek it, and you put just the smallest amount of effort, adventure can be found everyday.

 

What do you do to find excitement in the every day? Have you done any of the things mentioned? Let me know how it goes in the comments below!

Stay Wild,

Mandee

 

 

 

 

 

Why I Hike Alone

Hello, darling!

I started hiking because of my husband (although he was not my husband at the time). Just to clarify – he did not make me go hiking. He liked hiking, and I wanted to see if I did too because… you know, try new things, baby! Turns out, I did like it… A LOT!

From this love of hiking, and generally just being out in the forest, I started going out alone. This caused much concern in some people.  I heard things like, “It’s dangerous out there.” “I don’t like you going out on your own.” “You never know what could happen.” “There’s crazy people everywhere.” And the like.  Now- these things are all true, and to the people who said this to me: I love you. Thank you. I hear you.  Also- This post is for you.

Why I Hike Alone

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Not Fearless

Hey there my darlings!

If you know me, you know I love doing things that scare me (and I also hate it).  It’s thrilling as hell (and it’s frightening as hell).  But I do it, and afterwards I feel amazing.

It’s not about being FEARLESS. A lot of us throw this word around… fearless. We want to be fearless. We have no fear. We’re fucking the fear. But that’s not the way to think about it.

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Listen Up!

Hello Sweetcakes!

This is not what you’d expect of a typical Wild Red post.  I know I’m just starting and I’m “supposed to” stick to one niche for now. That’s what “they” say. But… I’m not here just to do what “they” tell me I should do. That is very much NOT Wild Red. There is a lot going on in the world right now, and this is something I feel very strongly about. So, read on, if you please. 

 

There is so much hatred in the world. I suppose this could have been said throughout history, but I think we all feel it a bit more strongly right now. We feel so separated. At least, I feel so separated. There is division everywhere. We are divided in our country, in our communities, in our homes even, and we’re getting farther apart. I feel it. You feel it. We see it everywhere.

Hate is shoved in our faces. Every day. All day. From every which way.  Thanks to this amazing thing called technology, we are now able to witness hate like never before.  Our lives are immersed with screens. Everywhere you go there’s a screen. We carry screens in our pockets. And that’s fine, but it’s adding the the separation, and to the hate.

We talk about it constantly. There are opinions everywhere. We are all screaming from our fingertips, “HEAR ME!” Yet the only people we actually listen to are the ones who are saying the same damn thing we are.  This validates our convictions. It gives us a sense of righteousness.  “That’s exactly what I’m saying. You get it. I get it. Why don’t they?

The people we need to listen to, though, are the ones saying what we are not. The people who have different opinions about these issues.  The people with a different lifestyle or culture.

And I mean truly, honestly, compassionately listen.

Take your damn thoughts about the way you think the world should be, about the way it is, about who you are and who you think this other person is, and put these thoughts away. Keep them in a box. You can bring them out later, fine. But right now, you just need to listen. Give the person the benefit of the doubt that they are coming from a place of love. That they want the same thing you do – to be happy (enough), safe, and everyone to be okay. Isn’t that what we all truly want at the core?

Just listen. Don’t worry about your response. In fact, you don’t even have to respond.

Maybe you think, “Well they don’t listen to me”, and yeah- you’re probably right, but IT IS NOT ONLY ABOUT YOU! You can’t make anyone else change. You can only change the way you react and feel about them. You are the only person in the world you can change, sorry to break it to ya.

So change your attitude and attention towards those with different opinions and values from you, and just possibly you’ll understand their points a little better, and I have no doubt you’ll hate them a lot less…if at all.  Maybe you’ll inspire them to listen to someone with opposing views, and so on, and then maybe we can diffuse this divide just a bit. Person by person. Conversation by conversation.

Until we all start doing a lot more of this, and a lot less of the screaming, the divisions between us will only stronger and wider. Listening is the only way to peace.

We will never all agree. We should never all agree. Opposing ideas and views are what make progress and growth and innovation possible.

We need to all think differently. We just shouldn’t hate each other for doing so.

Go out there in the world. Find the people who are different from you. Learn their stories. Listen to them fully. Spread love and compassion to the world.

We are all a part of this amazing earth. We are all human.

We are all different. And we are all the same.

 

Sending Peace to All,

Mandee

 

 

 

 

Go After Your Dreams

Hey there, darling!

Do you have a big dream? because I have a big dream.

Does it eat away at you? because it eats away at me.

Are you taking steps to make it reality? because I haven’t done much at all. But maybe that’s about to change…

Let Go of the expectations

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